Right off the top let me say: Being alone is a choice! I've been living alone for 8 years now. That's way to long I tell myself. But I've spent the time well. I've used it to go back to school and build a business. So I'm cool with it. My buddies like: Get a girl friend or a room mate dude! Right? Maybe! Some of us are better off being solo. I'm good either way. I'm happy and confident with who I am. I have more personal power than that, ha ha. And, I never give up on a commitment. I committed myself to a certain college degree and business and I'm like a Pit Bull about it.
I love woman, but I'll put them off till I've done what I say I will. M.O.B.
Now 8 years down the road I am still single. I get hits from time to time. I'm lucky in that way. Women like me, but I'm a little confused about all that. I'm use to chasing, not choosing. Actually, okay, I'm scarred too! For you people out there male or female here's a tip. If you get dumped, don't hold on to the past. I repeat: Don't hang on to the past! The future awaits.
I know it takes time, but you gotta do it. Let go of the past. As soon as you do, the opposite sex will see you differently. You'll see you differently too. You'll get over it, you'll come out of that shell. And guess what? People know when someone's ripe for the pickin. (lol)
I love woman, but I'll put them off till I've done what I say I will. M.O.B.
Now 8 years down the road I am still single. I get hits from time to time. I'm lucky in that way. Women like me, but I'm a little confused about all that. I'm use to chasing, not choosing. Actually, okay, I'm scarred too! For you people out there male or female here's a tip. If you get dumped, don't hold on to the past. I repeat: Don't hang on to the past! The future awaits.
I know it takes time, but you gotta do it. Let go of the past. As soon as you do, the opposite sex will see you differently. You'll see you differently too. You'll get over it, you'll come out of that shell. And guess what? People know when someone's ripe for the pickin. (lol)
But you can get stuck in living alone. I was like: What's the sense anyway? Condoms are boring to me (like showering in a rain coat). Sex is a risk anyway, condoms break. Unless you stay with someone a long time and get to know them before intercourse its always a risk. I couldn't do that anyway, because of my scheduled.
Women want and need attention and they'll dump you if you can't give it to them.
You can be like, ah so what if she leaves if you want to, but that shit hurts anyway. Like I said earlier; women need attention and I feel like I'd be jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire trying to date with my schedule. So it's L.A baby, "live alone". Plus the STP fear doesn't help. FWB is not a bad idea but you have no way of knowing if your friend is benefiting someone else too, and you can't ask because she might ask you the same question and you know how us guys are (lol).
I love my freedom and running my own life yes, yes and ohhh yeah! My mom has 4 sons, and she's very protective of all four. She has 8 daughters too. All 4 sons have been married, divorced and re-married. I'm the only one who did not go back for more. But I shouldn't be: Living alone. Right?
Women want and need attention and they'll dump you if you can't give it to them.
You can be like, ah so what if she leaves if you want to, but that shit hurts anyway. Like I said earlier; women need attention and I feel like I'd be jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire trying to date with my schedule. So it's L.A baby, "live alone". Plus the STP fear doesn't help. FWB is not a bad idea but you have no way of knowing if your friend is benefiting someone else too, and you can't ask because she might ask you the same question and you know how us guys are (lol).
I love my freedom and running my own life yes, yes and ohhh yeah! My mom has 4 sons, and she's very protective of all four. She has 8 daughters too. All 4 sons have been married, divorced and re-married. I'm the only one who did not go back for more. But I shouldn't be: Living alone. Right?
My brothers all say they wish they hadn't married! But that's just human nature. We always want what's on the other side of the fence. Until we get there, then were wanting back where we were. They've each expressed it to me on more than a few occasions down through the years. But I think they were pissed about something at the time.
I just tell them: Hey! Being single has it pros just like being married does. But that doesn't mean it's what's best for you. Good thing none of them read these blogs huh? I don't think they do anyway. She's [mom] preached for years that today's woman is not worth the time. That I deserve better than what's out there today. That coming from a woman kinda makes you think. And as hard as that pill is to swallow, in many ways she's right to some extent... but not totally. At least that's what my pecker tells me.
She says: "men don't won't them women out there today, don't no man want to deal with insane and insecure. And furthermore they all been around, what man really wants that? Plus here in America you'd end up sitting a court somewhere getting your life taken away and given to her on top of all that!
And that got my attention!
What man wants to be sitting up in a courtroom, in front of a judge getting all his money taken, his life yanked out from under him, and watching his kids being put through hell; all that behind one of them misguided crazy ass women out there, ain't none of em got any sense, she'd say". She gonna leave you if you don't let her run things. And she don't even know how to run her own life. We're all going to be either living alone or dead one day anyway, so what's the difference, I thought. Maybe she's right, just leave em alone.
You have to admit, that's a pretty good argument! In divorce court I saw a 77 year old woman divorcing her 80 year old husband because he pushed her while on some new meds. She was determined to not tolerate that under any circumstances. Over 50 years together. He was crying like a baby too. Well the judge granted her her wish and gave her everything of his plus her own stuff. I don't think he lived long after that. Who could at that age, she basically killed her mate? He was pretty feebly looking sitting there in the courtroom. He seemed so devastated and afraid. They both had roughly the same amount of income each. But, the judge [the state] did indeed take half of his money and give it to her even though he was stricken with illness. Bet he didn't think it could ever end like that when he married her. So, yeah, no thanks, I'm cool. Right? Wrong!
I just tell them: Hey! Being single has it pros just like being married does. But that doesn't mean it's what's best for you. Good thing none of them read these blogs huh? I don't think they do anyway. She's [mom] preached for years that today's woman is not worth the time. That I deserve better than what's out there today. That coming from a woman kinda makes you think. And as hard as that pill is to swallow, in many ways she's right to some extent... but not totally. At least that's what my pecker tells me.
She says: "men don't won't them women out there today, don't no man want to deal with insane and insecure. And furthermore they all been around, what man really wants that? Plus here in America you'd end up sitting a court somewhere getting your life taken away and given to her on top of all that!
And that got my attention!
What man wants to be sitting up in a courtroom, in front of a judge getting all his money taken, his life yanked out from under him, and watching his kids being put through hell; all that behind one of them misguided crazy ass women out there, ain't none of em got any sense, she'd say". She gonna leave you if you don't let her run things. And she don't even know how to run her own life. We're all going to be either living alone or dead one day anyway, so what's the difference, I thought. Maybe she's right, just leave em alone.
You have to admit, that's a pretty good argument! In divorce court I saw a 77 year old woman divorcing her 80 year old husband because he pushed her while on some new meds. She was determined to not tolerate that under any circumstances. Over 50 years together. He was crying like a baby too. Well the judge granted her her wish and gave her everything of his plus her own stuff. I don't think he lived long after that. Who could at that age, she basically killed her mate? He was pretty feebly looking sitting there in the courtroom. He seemed so devastated and afraid. They both had roughly the same amount of income each. But, the judge [the state] did indeed take half of his money and give it to her even though he was stricken with illness. Bet he didn't think it could ever end like that when he married her. So, yeah, no thanks, I'm cool. Right? Wrong!
But before I tell you why it's wrong to think living alone is good, let's look in on some more of my mother's thoughts about this subject.
"Those women out there today aren't women, she says, they're just lost and now they're waking up, but it's too late. Don't no man want em. They screwed themselves! Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. Give an idiot enough rope and it will hang itself every time. These California men of today don't want em no more. They have a vagina and that's a little bit too much power for most of them. So leave em alone. Let em love on one another, they seem to be doing more of that these days than anything else anyway, leave em lost!" Okay mom, okay!
I get it. I just don't know how an 80 year old women is so well informed about today's social issues. Probably through all of her nieces and nephews. She's got about a million resources. My mom heads a family of well over one hundred and fifty direct family members. We're a big family. So, yes, she see's a lot and knows a lot. However just between you and me, I have girl friends.
You see I believe that loneliness will shorten your life.
"Those women out there today aren't women, she says, they're just lost and now they're waking up, but it's too late. Don't no man want em. They screwed themselves! Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. Give an idiot enough rope and it will hang itself every time. These California men of today don't want em no more. They have a vagina and that's a little bit too much power for most of them. So leave em alone. Let em love on one another, they seem to be doing more of that these days than anything else anyway, leave em lost!" Okay mom, okay!
I get it. I just don't know how an 80 year old women is so well informed about today's social issues. Probably through all of her nieces and nephews. She's got about a million resources. My mom heads a family of well over one hundred and fifty direct family members. We're a big family. So, yes, she see's a lot and knows a lot. However just between you and me, I have girl friends.
You see I believe that loneliness will shorten your life.
I'm finding the single life to be all that I'd hoped it would be and more. My children's mother has tried to leave her new husband of 7 years twice now, but I don't think she should. Oh, she deserves whatever she's unhappy about, but if she stays she'll probably live 30% longer. I get lonely at times, but I use to get lonely at times when I was married too, so what's the difference? There is no difference really.
You see we shouldn't flirt with loneliness. It's not good anyway you look at it. You should have friends and a couple of places you can go at the drop of a hat where you're accepted and can talk, associate and mingle. You need that! Without it you will die much sooner than you should. Even God said: "Man should not live alone". By the way that's how capitalism feeds on troubled marriages. A large number of those marriages could be saved and children spared the troubled life divorce puts on them.
I tried the online dating thing a couple of times but resolved that people that have to go about dating that way have something wrong with them in one way or another. Maybe not everybody. Just the ones that were attracted to me (lol).
Anyway, good looking, healthy people should just improve upon themselves mentally and emotionally, get in the game and date mono-e-mono.
If you're not ready now, practice in the mirror until you are. Get out a lot, make eye contact and talk to people. Just be yourself.
It's so easy to lie on those dating sites. I'd rather take my chances face to face and get rejected for using bad lines, or something. At least we're face to face and you have to look into my eyes when you reject me. You can only be rejected so many times before you're accepted anyway.
If I do the online thing again, her face better be like her picture and her body better be like the picture too.
Right? You'd be surprised at how many of those online daters are playing with less than a full deck too. Or, they're covering up something. Since 40 is the new 20, 60 the new 40 and so on, those of us who have managed to hold on to a decent appearance might have it little easier. Maybe, maybe not.
But it doesn't matter how you look at it, living alone is a killer. Living alone is better if you have an active social network, have a hobby, a career and a out going personality. But even then you need to be watchful that you don't live alone so long that you can't live with anybody again. That's a death sentence. I think. It's definitely better to stay single until you're done with school and found your career niche. But I think living alone really sucks after a while. So, good friends, a few female friends, or guy friends if you're a girl, and an exciting hobby or career are all you need now-a-days and you're set. I'm content with that! So I say, as I actively seek a girlfriend. Read more......
You see we shouldn't flirt with loneliness. It's not good anyway you look at it. You should have friends and a couple of places you can go at the drop of a hat where you're accepted and can talk, associate and mingle. You need that! Without it you will die much sooner than you should. Even God said: "Man should not live alone". By the way that's how capitalism feeds on troubled marriages. A large number of those marriages could be saved and children spared the troubled life divorce puts on them.
I tried the online dating thing a couple of times but resolved that people that have to go about dating that way have something wrong with them in one way or another. Maybe not everybody. Just the ones that were attracted to me (lol).Anyway, good looking, healthy people should just improve upon themselves mentally and emotionally, get in the game and date mono-e-mono.
If you're not ready now, practice in the mirror until you are. Get out a lot, make eye contact and talk to people. Just be yourself.
It's so easy to lie on those dating sites. I'd rather take my chances face to face and get rejected for using bad lines, or something. At least we're face to face and you have to look into my eyes when you reject me. You can only be rejected so many times before you're accepted anyway.
If I do the online thing again, her face better be like her picture and her body better be like the picture too.
Right? You'd be surprised at how many of those online daters are playing with less than a full deck too. Or, they're covering up something. Since 40 is the new 20, 60 the new 40 and so on, those of us who have managed to hold on to a decent appearance might have it little easier. Maybe, maybe not.
But it doesn't matter how you look at it, living alone is a killer. Living alone is better if you have an active social network, have a hobby, a career and a out going personality. But even then you need to be watchful that you don't live alone so long that you can't live with anybody again. That's a death sentence. I think. It's definitely better to stay single until you're done with school and found your career niche. But I think living alone really sucks after a while. So, good friends, a few female friends, or guy friends if you're a girl, and an exciting hobby or career are all you need now-a-days and you're set. I'm content with that! So I say, as I actively seek a girlfriend. Read more......
